How to Really Move on From a Breakup


Dealing with a breakup can be one of the toughest situations many of us have to face in life. And sometimes it can really be hard for many of us to move on from. I want to tell you there’s no one way of dealing with a breakup. It’s not something you can wake up the next morning be like ” Fuck it! I’m over them.” Although it would feel great if we could get over people that meant a lot to us quickly; it doesn’t always happen like that.

Here are some of the most honest ways I learned to finally move on from a breakup.

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Understand why the breakup happened:

Understanding why the break up happened is truly important. If the break up happens unexpectedly it’s very important to analyze what possibly led up to it.

  • Was there a lot of arguing?

  • Was there a lot of trust issues or lying?

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Let it bleed, let it hurt, let it heal:

This is one of my favorite quotes. The best way to think of this quotes is like this. When you scraped your knee as a kid. Did it bleed right? And although as you wiped it, it continued to bleed? Then comes to the pain of it, your leg is sore. You cry, you allow emotion to escape because it’s painful. Then you clean it bandage it up, and even though it might still be sore. You’re giving it time to heal because you know it’ll get better. Well, that’s how breakups are.

Let it bleed, let it hurt, let it heal. After understanding why the break up happens to allow everything that led to the break up to come out. Rather that might be honest feelings, untold emotions. The next step is to allow yourself to feel the pain. Cry, break down, don’t try to numb yourself of the emotions. We must all go through the feel of pain allow of selves begin the healing process.


Avoid Rebounding:

I did this after my relationship ended. The next month I dated someone. Even though I knew I wasn’t genuinely interested in them because I still had feelings for my ex. And I wasn’t exactly in the right mind state. I continued to date them.

We all want to think that just getting out of a relationship we’re going to find our happily ever after quickly right after the previous. But it’s not realistic and you need to give yourself some time before jumping into another relationship. You need time to be with yourself and alone. It can be damaging for you to jump into another relationship with another person you’re just using as a rebound. It can also be hurtful to the person you’re dating if you’re just dating them to get over or make an ex jealous.

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Do things you loved:

I feel many of us get into new relationships and we try to focus most of our attention on our partner and on the relationship to make sure we’re giving both them the attention they deserve; even if that means sacrificing some of our hobbies and interests.

After a break up happens I believe it’s great to go back to something you loved doing. That could be anything; writing, blogging, art, sewing. Something that used to bring you happiness and inner peace, that’s not only positive and safe but makes you happy. This also gives you an opportunity to try something new. Something you always wanted to do but never gave yourself time to.

Avoid social media:

Take a break from social media if needed. This might be difficult for some of you. Especially bloggers. As we use our social media not only as apart as our platform but to share ourselves to the world. I found that scheduling posts, and Instagram posts, tweets, not only to be beneficial but give me some ease from social media so I could heal.

If you don’t want to go through the process of making posts etc. It’s okay to take a step back and be absent for a while. Your supporters and readers will be understanding. For those that don’t blog, use this time to take a break from social media and to do the things that make you happy. If needed take a break from social media for a few months if necessary. It’s all about you and your personal journey to self-care.

Block, Unfollow, & Unfriend if Necessary:

After me and Dream Boy broke up I unfriended him on every social media we were on. I also blocked him on Facebook etc. I know what you’re thinking. ‘‘Blocking seems like a little excessive doesn’t it? ” The reason why I blocked him was so I could begin moving on. If I was friends or followed him, I knew I would be looking at his page, or reading his posts. I knew that wasn’t going to be healthy for me as it would cause emotional triggers. I went through the process of blocking him so I would prevent myself from messaging him or looking at him. I knew if I unblocked him a week later after our breakup, I truly wasn’t ready to move on. I didn’t unblock him until I was truly ready which took a good 3-4 month.

Talk to Close Friends, Family, Counselors :

Though I was still dealing with the heartache and anxiety from the breakup. I still talked to my mother and sister. Going through any traumatic breakup is difficult and you need someone to vent to no matter how many times you’ve felt like you talked about it. You also need to prevent yourself from overthinking in the process.

In some cases many of you probably don’t have people close to you, you can talk to. Whether that’s a parent or sibling. Whatever the case may be. I also found counseling to help. You can either go online and talk to a counselor/therapist. Or by reaching out to your doctor to get referred to counseling services covered by your insurance provider.

Apps and websites that let you talk to counselors for free

Don’t always expect a text, email, or a call:

A month after my break up. I was still expecting a ”Hey” ”Can we talk?” message. Which is normal. When you were in a relationship with someone for a long time and were used to talking to them regularly. It’s going to be difficult adjusting to not hearing from them because they were a part of your life at one point.

It’s important to not expect a message from your ex-partner. But also to not feed into emotional triggers; by messaging them either. I know the idea sounds comforting, but in some ways, it’s only going to set you back on your healing process, especially if you don’t get the response you were expecting from them.

Let go of any hate:

This can be one of the most difficult stages of moving on from any breakup. Letting go of the anger and pain you had towards your former partner. Although it may not be the easiest process. Give yourself enough time to. Holding onto anger, frustration, or hate can’t change what happen. Nor is it going to help you. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and hoping the other person suffers.

Let go of any hate:

This can be one of the most difficult stages of moving on from any breakup. Letting go of the anger and pain you had towards your former partner. Although it may not be the easiest process. Give yourself enough time to. Holding onto anger, frustration, or hate can’t change what happen. Nor is it going to help you. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and hoping the other person suffers.

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practice self-care & Finding yourself again: Going through any breakup is hard. So it’s very important after to focus on yourself. Practice loving and healing you. There are many ways you can practice self-care:

Picking up or returning to an old hobby

Taking a trip- I’m not saying take a 6 hr long trip somewhere. But maybe to a local city or town near you. If you can’t do that, take a trip to a local zoo. It doesn’t have to expensive or drastic.

Painting- Painting helps eases symptoms of anxiety/panic disorder and depression. So if you suffer from any of these it may be helpful.

Keeping positive reminders around: In the world, we live in it’s very hard to find the positives in a lot of what we see every day. But with simple hacks and tricks you should see yourself finding a bit of your happiness back.

-Write positive quotes and post them around your house or apartment.

-Snap photos of things, or people that make you happy and make a booklet

-Write a positive or good thing that happens to you/or something you did for someone else each day.

(If this is applicable to your break up) Learn forgiveness:

If this is applicable after your break up. Learn to forgive your partner. This process takes time as anger and hate

can sometimes play a major role after a breakup. Forgiving your ex-partner for what they might have done, in most situations make everything a lot easier to deal with. In ways, it can also help you move on in the process.

Remember things will get easier and you’ll be okay again:

Always remember, life experiences like getting over a break up will get easier. Time and self-care will be your best friends during this time. Sometimes you will feel you made progress of getting over an ex and sometimes you won’t feel that way, and that’s okay. Learning to not allow your setbacks influence your progress of moving on when it comes to relationships will help you. No matter how sad or painful a breakup may feel, always remember things will get better and you will be okay again.

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Coconut Turkey Curry

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Hello, ghosts and welcome back! Sorry for not posting in a few weeks, I’ll talk about that another time. 

Before I start off this recipe, I feel like I should just mention this is not an authentic curry nor do I want to say it is. I’m all about respecting cultures and cuisine and I would rather say this is my best interpretation of a curry. Okay, now that out of the way let’s get into the post.

This is one of my first times making curry. I’ve had a curry before like lamb, and goat curry. But this is my first time making it with turkey.

I decided to be a little different and instead of making a ”traditional” chicken curry I would make a Turkey curry. I received some turkey products from the one and only Jennie-O this month and I thought it would be great to make a warm pot of curry since it’s fall and getting quite chilly out here in Ohio. Jennie-O sent me Turkey breast tenderloins and some ground turkey which I’ll use in another upcoming post.

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So as I mentioned before I’ve eaten curry but never made it myself. But boy have I read a lot of recipes and watched a lot of YouTube video on it.

Most of the ingredients that I’m using in my curry you will find in a authentic one.

Curry Powder– I just purchased a small jar of good quality curry powder.

Serrano Chile– I’m sure Serrano chilies are probably not used in curry but I opted for that because I couldn’t find the small red chili peppers

Vegetables– The blend of vegetables I’m using are just red peppers, yellow peppers, and onions.

Coconut Milk– I’ve seen plenty of curry with coconut milk so I thought I would give it a go. I happen to pick up Organic coconut milk. I don’t know or get the significance of organic coconut milk. So I’m sure you can use a regular any full fat unsweetened coconut milk.

Yogurt– I decided to marinate the turkey in yogurt just because the turkey is so lean and I thought it would be another great way to ensuring the meat would stay tender. I mistakenly got Greek Yogurt instead of plain yogurt. But it’s perfectly fine for this recipe.

Seasonings: I decided to add some additional seasonings into this curry such as garlic powder, onion powder, paprika cayenne pepper, , and red pepper flakes.

Full Ingredient list and Measurements

  1. 1 package of Jennie-O Turkey Breast Tenderloins
  2. 1 teaspoon of Garlic Powder
  3. I teaspoon of Onion Powder
  4. I teaspoon of Paprika
  5. ¼ teaspoon of cayenne pepper
  6. ½ teaspoon of red pepper flakes
  7. 1 & ½ tablespoons of curry powder.
  8. ½ of Red & Yellow bell pepper cut into strips
  9. 1 small Serrano chili
  10. 1 small yellow onion sliced thinly
  11. ½ cup of Yogurt
  12. 1 and ½ cups of water
  13. 1 can of Organic coconut milk


  • Start by slicing your vegetables and placing them into a medium size bowl and set aside. Next, dice your turkey into 1-inch chunks and place into a large bowl and set aside.
  • Clean and sanitize where you cut your turkey. Add ½ cup of yogurt and 1 tablespoon of curry powder into your turkey bowl.
  • Stir until everything is combined, wrap with foil, or plastic wrap and place in a refrigerator and allow it marinate for one hour or overnight.
  • Place your vegetables in your fridge until you are ready to begin cooking.
  • Set your turkey out 10 minutes ahead and allow it to reach room temperature. In a heated pan add three or four tablespoons of oil. When the oil is rippling and hot and your vegetables are sure to stir constantly.
  • Allow the vegetables to cook until slightly tender. Once vegetables are tender add a pinch of salt along with other spices and begin adding your Turkey.
  • Place a lid and allow the meat to cook stir occasionally. Once the turkey looks slightly cooked add 2 and a half cup of water. Season with salt again. Allow to simmer on medium high for 10 minutes until water has reduced then add your coconut milk.
  • Let it simmer on low for 30 minutes – 1 hour. Taste for seasoning and add more curry powder/ salt if needed.

Serve with greek yogurt and brown rice.

Allow leftovers to come to room temperature and place in a resealable container. Keeps in freezer for a month. Keeps in refrigerator for a week.

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I Almost Passed Out On My First Day Of Work? Life Update

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As I mentioned in my last update I would be starting work this month. I’m sorry for not updating you all sooner with me but with orientations and personal things going on with me right now I was unable to.

Work: My first day of work was let’s just say interesting. I ride public transportation, so I typically leave 2-3 hours earlier than my scheduled arrival time. On my way to work, things were fine until I got on the train to go towards work. I started having anxiety attacks. (short breathing, constant swallowing, leg rocking,) I’ve been struggling to keep my anxiety from happening in public since moving back to Ohio. There’s been a lot of things that’s been triggering it which I’ll get into it later.

On my way off the train, there were crowds of people running to get on the one I just got off. Bumping, running etc. After I left the station I headed towards my job. I didn’t have to be there until 4 but just to play it safe I arrived at 2:30. On my way to work I began having panic attacks. (Panic attacks are much like anxiety attacks but 10x worst.) I kept feeling lightheaded and the need to the past out, puke, cry all at the same time. I zoned out a few times while walking but tried to keep my focus. Not to mention my feet were killing me and it was hot as hell that day.

I kept pushing myself and walked all the way to a resting stop at my job. I sat down to try to calm myself down and rest up before I started my shift; didn’t work exactly. The panic attacks continued to happen, although I try taking deep breaths and keeping it under control. It didn’t work, and I began crying. No sobbing, just tears running down and shakiness. There were a few people sitting next to me so I tried my best to keep it under wrap. Luckily they left and I could practice my breathing exercises and counting. It didn’t help. I tried pulling my elastic band that didn’t help either, Workers were coming in and getting things ready. So it was very awkward trying to not show I was crying and was having a panic attack.

I finally went towards my job and waiting for an another hour and a half before I could start my shift My legs were aching and I was tired. Luckily I recognized a few people from my orientation and I felt somewhat relieved. We were all sent together then it was time to go and start work.

Anxiety kicked in once again because many of us didn’t know what to do. We were told we would be trained on our first day but that didn’t happen. So we had to kind of figure out as we went. I’ve worked in food service before but it’s very difficult to keep your anxiety under-wrapped when you’re not given directions or instructions on how to do things or use equipment.

After a few hours prepping and getting to know everyone, it was time to start and open. I started to feel sick. Lightheaded, nauseous, and feeling panicked. A few of my co-workers asked if I was okay and to try to eat something. But I was leaned over a table feeling sick and asked my co-worker to get my shift leader so I could go to medic. He took me to medic and I suffered a panic attack and dehydration. They had to give me an IV so I wouldn’t feel lightheaded and pass out. They also gave me water and snacks. The medical staff was really great and were helpful. They even tried making a few jokes to relax me. I was there for an hour until I finished my IV and headed back to work. Everyone was great and welcomed me back and asked how I was. I went back to work helped out where I could. Joked around with one of my co-workers that were teasing me in fun and left. I caught my train back home had to be on bed rest a few days. It definitely wasn’t the ideal first day, but hell will it be rememberable.

My second day of work went well and really smoothly. I managed to keep up and work really hard. Joked around with a few of my co-workers and had a hardworking busy time.

I’m still on the job hunt and looking for a full time employment but I’m hopeful.

Therapy Pet: I’ve been looking into the idea of getting a therapy dog/cat for my anxiety. I believe I mentioned this before. But I’m realizing I kinda really need it right now.

Moving Back & Counseling: I would be lying to you all if I wasn’t honest about things being a little rough since moving back here. It seemed like a good idea for moments when I was back in Pittsburgh. But I don’t think I could explain how tough it’s been being here. But there’s also been quite a few good things as well. Like being able to spend time with my younger siblings. Things of that nature, I suppose. But I been working extensively with my counselor to get better with my anxiety and work through a lot of things. And so far it’s really helped slowly but sure I see myself making process and I’m getting better.

I hope you guys been okay. Words can’t explain how much I appreciate the ongoing support from all of you. Thank you so much again.